There are lots of things I hate
About trauma
Real honest to goodness trauma
Like…
How it automatically steals
Future joy
How it cripples effective communication
How it makes trenches
With one way signs in brains
How it dictates patterns
Of protection
Of avoidance
Of self-sabotage
Of self- destruction
Of hyper-vigilance
How it demands boundaries
That are more like walls
And armor
And obstacles
For protection
Which work only barely
Against future abuse
Or future survival
But works more effectively
At keeping away success
And joy
And love
And safety
And how relentless it is
At making a person feel
Unworthy
And broken
And angry
And how unfair it all is
That it happens all the time
And how many of us
This describes
HASTYWORDS 
Mow many? Maybe, in some degree almost everybody. It may not be the big catastrophic, overwhelming assaults, but the slow crush of years of disregard and disrespect, or the thousand cuts of micro-aggression, the hurts so easily passed over as “no big thing” that still fester. Does anybody really escape? Kindness, compassion, and empathy call us to assume not, even when we cannot know the details.
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Exactly this. All of us. And I suppose this is why compassion and love are so important. So we can, in small ways if we can, hijack what trauma hoped to steal.
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Quite so.
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HASTY – Trauma has it’s way.
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