We have to grow into things

And sometimes it’s dark and cruel

That expectation

To just be able to do and do

And when you can’t do

Because that isn’t how you grow

The judgement is stifling

The community goes quiet

And the growing into things

Becomes backing out of things

Becomes avoiding things

And the avoiding becomes

This broken thing

You can’t unbreak for them

And it can take years

To understand you can grow

Your own way

Over and over again