Today my guest blogger is one of my “IRL” friends, May Vann. Compassion happens when you get past the stereotyping and the judgments and take the next step in caring about someone. I hope this idea comes across in this post today!
When I first met May we were shaking our butts next to each other at a zumbathon event. Even drenched in sweat my jawed dropped because well… she is beautiful. Although she is beautiful to look at it was her fun spirit, smile, and personality that made me feel comfortable enough to get to know her. Beautiful people make me shy and insecure…but not her. She is the kind of person that makes you feel perfect just the way you are and when I am around her…I feel beautiful.
To be honest we all judge people and if I had seen a picture of her before I had seen the brilliant compassionate love in her face I would have never tried to get to know her. Why? My own insecurities. For some reason I had it in my head that all beautiful people hate ugly people. Just typing that makes me feel like a horrible and ugly person. May Vann doesn’t realize it but she changed my perspective on people and on how I judge people by their looks.
Now if I see someone I think is beautiful I will go up to them and tell them. Most times they are shocked someone thinks so and I made someone feel good about themselves, which in turn makes me feel good about myself. Another thing I have noticed is beautiful women are judged by other woman the most harshly. If you are pretty you will sadly have many women haters…ugh…just stop.
I want to take her story a bit further though because when you look at a picture you don’t see but a tiny, tiny piece of the person in the photograph. When I asked May to write something here for my blog I didn’t expect what I got. It is a poem and something she never talks about. This, these words, tell us so much more about her than a picture ever could. It also tells a story that I believe has helped shape her into who she is but it definitely does not DEFINE who she is.
She is a single mom having gone through divorce. She has two beautiful children with one being autistic. She has her Masters and works full time and sometimes more than one job. She has a hard time saying “no” to people because she is a people pleaser and she wants to make people happy. She makes me happy. I love you May!
May, very bravely, wrote this for me hoping she would find support and maybe some comfort. She also hopes to be one more voice speaking out loud in solidarity with other survivors of sexual abuse. She wants to say don’t feel ashamed. She has to say it to herself everyday… DON’T FEEL ASHAMED.
I hope you understand that everyone has a story and that story is rarely conveyed by what someone looks like. ~Hastywords