I really can’t even believe I am writing this post…
My heart hurts every time I see someone end their life because they feel shame. Young girls and probably boys who trust too easily and crave love and attention are caving to the peer pressure to send boobies… or more. Today, no matter how much you tell your children not to ever send naked pictures online the threat they will trust someone they “love” is great.
I am not talking about the young children sending adults nasty pictures (SICK BASTARDS EVERYWHERE) but about our high school aged kids who are exchanging pictures of their privates online as a form of foreplay. I know… UGH
We can list a million reasons why this form of foreplay is a HUGELY bad idea but it won’t stop it from happening, because in the moment they want the positive attention. Positive attention and accolades are extremely powerful and the more insecure a girl/boy is the more likely they will give a little just for the positive words they will receive. But then the fallout…
It is the fallout that concerns me the most. A teen brags to his/her friend and forwards the pic and before they know it the whole freaking WORLD has seen their (fill in the blank). Let the shaming begin.
Actually back up. It isn’t just teens. Basically, no matter what age a person is, and let’s be honest nearly EVERY adult I know has sent a nude to someone, this post remains relevant. If you haven’t I truly applaud you. There are some really amazing people who have a descent amount of self dignity and self worth who have participated in this type of foreplay. For better or worse this is where society is. I for one am not in a position to judge anyone.
I am not condoning or condemning this behavior, but I can say that had I had access to social media when I was a teenager I am pretty sure my emotional issues could have been much worse. Now that I am an adult it isn’t much easier, in fact, my blogging SisterWives have seen more of me than they probably signed on for.
Here is my point. I almost forgot I had a point.
Nudity is not shameful. Too many wonderfully beautiful people are killing themselves because they trusted someone and ended up being exposed. Naked body parts are not shameful albeit they should probably be kept private, because we can’t trust the human on the other end… wait….
Why can’t we trust humans online?
Well besides all the ways social media is monitored and how easy it is to accidentally post things online (yeah I had a twitter mishap once…but I survived). Despite the fact that devices get stolen, borrowed, or hacked. There is another reason our pictures aren’t private: we can’t TRUST anyone.
Isn’t that the real shame?
So whether it’s teenagers or adults exchanging picturesque love letters, next time a friend forwards you a picture of a mutual friend, an ex, a wife, a husband, a boyfriend, a one nightstand, or an online persona…. tell them NO THANK YOU! Tell them they should be ashamed of themselves.
I know, I know naked bodies are fun to look at but seriously…
We should probably afford this same respect to those strangers who DM their privates on twitter to everyone on their follow list -even though, let’s face it, they are advertising not falling in love. I have been guilty of letting someone quickly glance at my phone at these random and anonymous twitter packages because well some things really are impressive. But really it shouldn’t ever happen whether identity is an issue or not.
Whether the person who sent the picture cares if you forward it or not…that should be their own discretion not yours. Most of the time the pictures are shared within a circle of trust but at some point someone is going to get hurt.
I just really think lives could be spared if we were to stop shaming the naked people and start shaming the people who carelessly throw that person’s trust away.
Shame on you
For the hurt you caused behind her back
Not yours to share, betraying her trust
In full color of her sacred lines and curves
To inflate your fucking egotistical ass
Never ever know you exposed her privacy
Reputation and abusing her insecurities
Have exercised poor judgment, BUT you
Ashamed and called out for being a dick
I wish the world were different. In memory of all those who are made to feel shame.