If you haven’t heard of J.C. Hannigan you are in for a huge treat because she is someone I adore. I met her along with several other wonderful people when I joined Stigma Fighters. She was born with a chronic pain bone disorder called Multiple Hereditary Exostoses and I imagine writing was not only a way to cope with her world but it obviously fueled her passion to bring worlds to life for us.
I could list all the wonderful adjectives I think describe her but I won’t do her justice; she really is an inspirational superstar. We are all very lucky to have a soul like hers among us and I am proud to be hosting her here today. Please welcome J.C. Hannigan and be sure to support and stalk all her social sites.
No Good by J.C. Hannigan
I’ve seen many people in my life, locked into loveless relationships because they’re afraid. They are afraid of leaving, afraid of being defined as alone.
Alone. That’s such a scary sounding word, such a final sounding word. Married sounds secure when it rolls off your tongue…but alone? Alone sounds uncertain. Alone sounds…lonely.
I have somehow gained a “relationship guru” status within my circle, and at times, I’m not even sure how this came to be. My friends would come to me and unload their relationship problems and insecurities on me, asking me what I thought.
I suppose it is because I let off an air of wisdom when it comes to relationships. Maybe it’s false, maybe it isn’t. I know what I’ll stand for and what I will absolutely not stand for – but I’m realizing quickly that love blurs the lines of your morals. What once seemed so black and white is a thousand complicated shades of gray, and when you’re in the thick of it…you can’t always see it. You can when you’re on the outside looking in; you can see each and every imperfection and look at it subjectively. But when they’re your imperfections, when they’re your relationship – seeing it subjectively is very, very difficult.
So many people settle because they’re afraid of the unknown…they are afraid of being alone. They are afraid that they will never find someone else, so they accept a mediocre love story and try their best to pass it off as “true love”; a never-ending romance that rivals Romeo and Juliet when it is anything but. It’s dysfunctional and it’s no good. But they see the good, and they cling to the good and justify the bad with the good.
“The good outweighs the bad”, they’ll say. But how do they know that? Does the good really outweigh the bad, or do the scales tip the other way – and does pride keep them from walking away? Do people in truly happy relationships even need to say that, that the good outweighs the bad?
The fear of the unknown, the fear of being alone, and pride are all huge factors in what keep people in shitty relationships. Toss in a chemical reaction to one another – an explosive sexual chemistry that would melt the panties off any hot-blooded woman – and you’ve got a billion solid good reasons to stay in a relationship that’s not entirely good for you.
Bad relationships are a lot like smoking. Those arms…they’re a stress reliever. They wrap around you and ease your anxieties and frustrations. That sex can undo every bad fight, every hurtful comment – at least for a little while. It’s like a band-aide, a temporary fix.
But just like smoking, the long-term effects of staying in a bad relationship are not good. You become dependent, you can’t imagine going without that hit – those arms. Even if it’s killing you. You become addicted to that person, to the drama of your thunderous clashing. You can’t imagine life without them because you’ve become addicted to the dysfunction.
It’s so easy to lose yourself in it, in that dysfunction. It’s so easy to fear the unknown and being alone more than staying with someone who can turn your smile into an explosive rage fit in two seconds flat.
I’ve been there before. A lot of us have, even if we won’t admit with who or when. There’s always that final straw, that straw that breaks the camel’s back, so to speak. Something eventually clicks, someone eventually pulls their head out of their ass long enough to realize that they deserve more…they deserve better.
Title: Collide (Collide Series Book 1)
Author: J.C. Hannigon
Publisher: Booktrope Publishing
Re-Release: May 11th 2015
Purchase Link: http://tinyurl.com/q29gala
Harlow Jones has a troubled past, and a questionable future. Surrounded by death, tragedy, and intrigue, she is forced to mature long before her time. Plagued by anxiety and depression, she hides her inner turmoil with spite and sarcasm. Her thick skin is impenetrable…or so she thought. Until she becomes involved with her grade twelve English teacher. In this exclusive entry into the new adult genre, with raw style that is as dark as it is poignant, Collide presents the ultimate choice: forbidden love or doing the right thing.
J.C. Hannigan’s love of reading was spawned from a very early age. She inhaled novels with an unquenchable thirst. Eventually, that love of reading turned into a love for writing. She started to pen stories at the tender age of nine while sitting at her white desk, pencil posed over lined paper, writing countless stories about a girl, her best friend, their horses and the adventures they’d have going on trial rides together. Born with a chronic pain bone disorder called Multiple Hereditary Exostoses, she didn’t get to play sports or run amuck like her siblings and peers. Writing kept her company amid a world of surgeries, bad pain days, and isolation.
She started a blog when she was fifteen-years-old, chronicling the challenges of high school, dating, and coping with her chronic pain bone disorder. That blog went on to win a Bloggie for Best Teen Weblog, and J.C.’s ego inflated quite a bit over it (enough to continuously mention it even today).
J.C. currently resides in a small town in Ontario with her husband, their two sons, and two dogs. When she isn’t trying to wrangle kids and dogs, she can be found writing. In addition to writing new adult romance and suspense novels, J.C. writes a blog for the MHE Coalition, discussing the struggles of living with Multiple Hereditary Exostoses. She also contributes to several other websites, including her personal blog, the OCH Literary Society, and she is the content manager for Stigma Fighters Canada. Through her writing, J.C. brings to light awareness of mental health and social challenges. Her writing has been described as edgy, bold, poignant, and raw.
Other hobbies of J.C.’s include hiking, camping, binge-watching shows like Outlander, Game of Thrones, The Vampire Diaries, and The Walking Dead, eating dill pickle chips and daydreaming of traveling around the world. J.C. adores interacting with readers, so don’t hesitate to reach out and say hi! She tries her best to respond to every message. To learn more, visit her on Facebook and follow her personal blog of random ramblings.
6 thoughts on “NO GOOD by J.C. Hannigan”
Lots of wisdom in that piece.
I think people settle for a bad relationship because they are unhappy and it seems easier and more pleasant to ‘add to the self, pile things on- stuff, relationships, activity-thus trying to repress the unhappiness. But if instead, we shed things, we would face our Selves and what is making us unhappy. Scarier, but way more effective in the long run.
Blowing my mind…
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