My #BeReal guest today is TJ Lubrano.
Besides being super talented (and Oh My Gosh is she talented) she has the ability to make the sun shine at midnight.
If I had to pick one person to be a role model for my daughter it would be TJ. I often think if she had an inspirational television series aimed at teenagers the world would instantly improve. This girl has the ability to make huge changes in this world just with her attitude alone.
See for yourself.
I love you TJ.
Greetings lovely readers!
You know, this could be one of the most honest pieces I’ve written about myself. I got tagged by my wonderful Sparkle aka Lizzi on Facebook. Usually when she tags me it’s about an interesting project or movement (#1000speak anyone?). I’m so happy that she did though as I’ve been living under a rock lately. Not because I’ve been busy with work and re-branding my site. These are only a part of the reason.
You have to live in the moment, right? You have to embrace whatever mood or situation you’re in, so you can process things and move forward. For me, this can be a tad difficult when the mood is feeling grumpy or sad as I’m a happy and cheery girl by nature. Trying to make the best of a not so great situation is huge part of who I am though, but at the moment I still feel like I want to hide in a cave for days in a row. I know that I can’t and since I want to be as real as possible towards others and myself, I’ll share with you the reason as well. Plus, it also feels like the right thing to do now.
I lost my grandad at the end of June and the entire month of July, I tried to keep working while processing what happened and overseeing all that had to be done. I have no idea why I find it so difficult to share it this time. When I lost my other grandad a few years ago, I did blog about it. This time I only managed told a select group of friends and this was already difficult, because by doing so I confirmed even more what had happened and a part of me really didn’t want to do this. Whenever something sad or bad happens, I always work through it while I try my best to hold onto my positive nature. Needless to say, the last couple of weeks I’ve been feeling a bit all over the place while I ponder about a lot of things. You can’t really predict how you will react in these type of situations, huh?
One of my working days, I came across a quote that simply made me forget what I was doing and what I was looking for online.
“I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn’t brighten her own.”
It really hit home as it’s a big part of who I am. I’ve had my fair share of difficult moments in life, but I never showed this to the outside world. I always kept a smile on my face and processed things in my own way. I was known as the girl who was always happy and there for you, which I loved, but it did make it more difficult to share the less happy things, because others couldn’t picture me sad or less happy.
The truth is, even when I’m sad or less happy, I will always have a smile for the ones I care about. A magical ramble. A surprise gift. Homemade food and baked goodies. I always want to make sure that you’re feeling okay and that taken care of. Knowing that I can brighten someone’s day by just being there does wonders for my own.
Another part of me is, that I live in dreamworlds. Not in a naive way, mind you. I fuse storytelling elements whenever I can and this translates itself in my art as well. I’m all about whimsical and magical worlds and characters and my sole purpose is to make you happy (smiles are very important to me) and make you feel that you can escape into another world. I told Lizzi in one of our chats that I truly live with my heart in my imagination. I can’t describe it in another way. My imagination is as real to me as you and me. It’s one of my safe places, it changed my life, it gives me strength and inspiration. It helps to soften the hardship and grief that can cover this world like a dark cloud. What makes it even more beautiful is that my imagination can shine even brighter because of the people I meet. Because of this I can keep the magic alive in the real world as well.
Do you realize that you’re magical?
Sometimes I feel that humans don’t realize how much magic they carry around inside of them. It’s easily forgotten due to daily life and responsibilities, but we really are magical and we are storytellers, whether you think are one or not. You tell stories with your movement, your actions and there are words hiding behind your eyes. I see it. I see the beauty. Hidden in layers of energy that surround the people I observe. When I see someone, I see so much more than their outer beauty. It’s probably one of the reasons why I can connect with people like I do. You may think that this is because I’m an artist, but anyone can make an effort to see it.
What does It mean to you to be real?
To be real is to be the most authentic version of yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to skip make-up or pretty clothes. You have to be the person you feel is hiding inside of you. If you connect to your soul and you strive to be the best version of yourself, it’s amplified in your actions. It’s felt in your words. It’s an energy that people can’t deny or ignore. It’s the same energy that can make a difference and that is an inspiration for yourself and others. I’ve come to learn that there’s a lot of power hiding in this.
What do you think most people think about you when they only see your picture?
A pretty girl. I base this on all the wonderful and flattering comments that I get as saying this out loud isn’t easy for me. I’ve never considered myself “pretty” or “all that”. Yes. I know I can look good, but a picture is just a moment frozen in time, you know? I’ve plenty of off days, plenty of days were imperfections speak louder than anything else. I’ll never be able to see myself how someone else sees me as I always see my own reflection. I rather have people notice what I can do than my looks alone. You can move mountains with your actions and words.
What would people be most surprised to learn about you?
Gosh. There are so many things that I’ve learned over the years. I think the most important thing is that you can make a difference for yourself if you’re willing to work hard for it. Life is all about making choices and that a choice at that specific moment in time is the right one for you to make. It’s taken in a split-second and it could feel like the wrong one as soon as that second is over, but at that brief moment in time, it was right. I learned to trust this a lot more over the years, because it has happened that whenever I tweaked my decision, the outcome wasn’t what I wanted it to be.
Another important thing is that you have to be kind towards yourself in order to be kind towards anyone around you. Being a very caring person often means that I put myself last. I still do this, but I’ve learned that I have my limits.
My Lovely Hasty, thanks so much for giving a space for so many beautiful #BeReal voices. I’m beyond honored to be a part of it. It’s like a being included in a world where you can be yourself, without any judgement and where magical outfits are readily available. Because, we are superheroes *strikes a pose* Thank you for that.
TJ Lubrano is an artist living in The Netherlands. She creates for the ones that still believe in Magical Characters and Worlds and Wondrous Adventures and who wants to embrace this in their every day lives. She also has a slight (huge…) obession for storytelling, traveling, dancing around, baking and cooking. She loves to write, but most of the time colors and lines do the talking.
You can find her on Instagram (http://www.instagram.com/tjlubrano) for your daily magical dose of art and cooking. It’s the place to be if you want to tag along the creation of her first book about a tiny curious Nature Bot and a mysterious little Fox Girl.
Her blog rambles and more art are on her official site, The Whimsy Art of TJ Lubrano. (http://www.tjlubrano.com)